While planning for the year ahead with your partner, de-emphasize starting the year off right by making big changes. Change takes time…a lot of it. I’d hate for you both to get into the new year, new me mindset, and have it wear off as February rolls around. Even worse, I’d hate for you both to keep your momentum going but eventually be derailed because things may not turn out as anticipated.

Tip No. 1: Ask for what you need...If you don’t know where to start with the conversation, here are some questions that may be helpful to think about. Do you need or want more touch or less touch around the holidays? Do you need more foreplay so that you can get out of your head into your body? Does holiday stress mean you would prefer not to engage in any sexual activity for a few days?