New Year Planning for Couples: Setting Relationship Goals for 2025

Throw Out the New Year, New Us Mindset

While planning for the year ahead with your partner, de-emphasize starting the year off right by making big changes. Change takes time…a lot of it. I’d hate for you both to get into the new year, new me mindset, and have it wear off as February rolls around. Even worse, I’d hate for you both to keep your momentum going but eventually be derailed because things may not turn out as anticipated.

Keep Your Expectations In Check

Speaking of anticipation - it’s best to put your expectations on a shelf. Like decorative dishes on a shelf, you’re absolutely allowed to have them, but you probably don’t want to use them daily. If you think about it, using your fancy, decorative dishes every day will make them less nice over time, right?

The same concept applies to planning for the new year as a couple. If those expectations come out too often, the situation feels less nice. Additionally, if one or both of you have a vision of how things are “supposed to” go, the frustration, anger, disappointment, etc., can threaten to overshadow any progress. 

Remember: tiny, slooooow progress is still progress. 

Prioritize Sex - In Practice, Don’t Just Say It

You want to improve your sex life, but are you both making that a priority? Do you have concrete, achievable goals, or are they on your vision board?

If improving your sex life is one of your goals and it’s on your list, how are you going to ensure it doesn’t slip to the bottom of your priorities? Be honest with yourselves.

When work requires extra hours, and you’re trying to juggle eating well, exercising, and your social life, how are you guys going to make sure you keep your focus on sex? And no, sorry, arguing about it doesn’t count as focus.